Integrating Is Not Always Good Idea. Are We Losing Originality?
The valentine week is glowing and trending everywhere. So why not write about something interesting related to love blossoming everywhere. But. But we seriously need to rethink about what we doing! Are we losing the originality and the essence of romance to technology and casualness?
The inducement of technology is good and everyone talking about how cool integrating modernity is but everything has its cons with their pros while you think at this point I am old fashioned hippie wait hear me out. Everyone out their writing with positivity not showing the light of what actually it is and not believing that feelings can be stirred by something so random.
Today, as we are going with modernity. The world around us is evolving with technology and most in everything. Dating apps have been existing on the internet for a long while. Here’s the question,” Are we taking everything to casually you due to its simplicity and reach?” “INTEGRATING MODERNITY IS THAT INTERGUING?”
The answer should probably be yes for most of you because the essence of romance is dead and chivalry too.
Everything is made simple by dating app- the casual, comfortable way is total sinister in real life Romance. Who told you to send only a virtual Card and not flowers on her birthday? Or Who told you to post millions of stories on your Instagram handle rather than spending time with him on his birthday?
Some may think that it is very casual and nothing complicated. For the person asking for a little bit of effort and love, what he/she becomes is too dramatic or cringe or clique or clingy, never mind all c words. Yes, this is what the internet has made us do.
This situation has become so bad current generation does not know what love and romance are. Focusing on things that are materialistic and thanks to Bollywood for teaching us these very realistic, sensible, and clique songs giving the opinion that money is everything.
Please Badshad, the only bad boy. If random boys throw an attitude and rap around roaming everywhere on the road there will be a case of molestation. Also, people will think that you are a “chapri”.
Ok, no offense. I am not against Bollywood but the Bollywood culture that has been developing in these recent years. Destroying the essence of pure romance and what love is. “Thoda to tehzeeb rakho”,” Tum Kya Jano asali Romance kya hota hai Ramesh Babu”.
Girls live the moment of the present at most because what else matters? And what a bliss is it to spend every moment with your loved one. It’s something like this living every movement and engraving it in your memory. Stop fantasizing the boys of TVD series or the k-drama. Either fantasizing Lee Min Ho or Ian Somerhalder.
The characters played by them are so catchy with the hint of Gentleman and a sense of Bad boy. There is not a single girl that wouldn’t fall for them. Reminiscing the scenes from your favourite serial won’t help when in actual life when you are always looking for shortcuts and convenience.
Love is something you need to work for with passion and overflowing with romance to keep it alive from time to time.
What Is Romance?
Now is the time to answer the most confused yet common question that is yet to be so solved, what is Romance?
The Mysterious feeling that causes you to have butterflies in your belly with the hint of love is what we call romance. Ok, I picked it up from the dictionary. To think, is it that simple and easy? Why people are frustrated and claiming that it is dead?
This feeling is very complicated and differs for everyone. This Feeling comes with a sense of security and commitment before that everything you do in the name of romance is flirting. The mutual feeling building upon trust and belief giving your best efforts, considering your partner’s feelings are what gives your partner the basics of romance.
You have to be the perfect date, not a trickster but yes you can try being a trickster if your partner loves humour. Just imagine what buzz kill it would be that on the day of valentines’ your partner trying to be romantic gives you flowers and you are allergic to pollen grains.
Romance is an Unstoppable feeling depending upon every aspect of a relationship and comfortability which will accelerate the gear of love story. Every time your love vehicle slows down.
A complicated sense..!
But it differs from people to people to what is the specific meaning in their life for this little feeling called Romance? But what I can say about the familiar view of Romance is clarity, comfortability, and trust. Knowing the person Inside Out and acting accordingly is what clarity is. It in no sense means that you have to change yourself to be with that person you love. Love is something that will find its way either way out, making you both comfortable and if you are forcing yourself, that’s toxic.
Comfortability is something that is gained with trust over time. Along with the sense of security and a kind of familiarity. While trust is built over commitment and responsibilities. All of these factors are necessary. Be it an early stage of your relationship or the latter stage of your relationship. These are the basic terms that make you a gentleman and a perfect wedding date.
No matter what era it is, it does not matter how easy the internet and dating apps have made reachability. Sense of responsibility and commitment is always the top-tier no matter who you meet and what was the means of your meeting.
A Successful relationship runs on trust and responsibility directed by Romance. You never know whom you will fit in your heart after your first date. Will it be love at first sight? Or you will see a long journey ahead after you both match the vibe. Everything is uncertain but what is certain is the Romance. Make sure not to let it fade away.
Why Romance is at toss?
Things are being easy and casual as it is becoming very comfortable for the person to lie. People are getting too comfortable for convenience as love is what we earn and there are no shortcuts. People are easily and casually pretending to be fake. Reaching out to different people of all kinds that’s what dating app does. People often choose someone perfect for their fake personality avoiding the good ones looking for love.
People are too busy showing off to enjoy peace of life, happily living with their loved ones. Still claiming that the Romance dead, we all are witnesses and delinquents. Making the situation worse creating phenomena that do not exist. Romance is not dead, the efforts and small gestures we do for our loved ones have been given a name tag of “clingy and cringe”. Romance is nothing that is to be achieved through hell but something which is to be understood and respected.
Now at the convenience and cost of shortcuts is it really okay to integrate and initiate love? This was my point of problem of what people are facing this valentine on theme integration hope we connected through this article uncovering our thoughts. Thankyou.
- Smriti